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The two reasons why most marriage relationships end up in shatters is either due to sex or finances; this is according to statistics. By shatters, I don’t necessarily mean divorce, even though we have been hearing more and more cases about people calling it quits on their marriage unions. By shatters, I mean a stale relationship where there isn’t any growth among you two, and the hefty burden of fending for your family is the only bond that seems to keep both of you together. As Africans, divorce has never been part of our diverse culture; we could only hear about the next wife or some other person on the sides.

About a month ago, I was privileged to share about sex and marriage in our fellowship with both married couples and soon to be married believers. Before the fellowship, I had just been wrestling with the Lord on how I might not have been the best candidate to share on this kind of a subject, but He still kept impressing it on my heart the need to share about it. He reminded me of Paul, how he was never married but has shed so much light about sex, and how it applies to marriage or singlehood. Paul had all the right to share about this, why? He had the Holy Spirit of God living and working inside of him. Who can match the counsel of the Holy Spirit, none!

Sex in the Bible

Quite frankly, the Bible has so much to share about sex than you can ever imagine. You first must be willing to let our Father, wash away any nasty ideology you may be having about the matter, which isn’t at all driven by His love for us. You have to go in it with an open heart and a willingness to receive it from the Lord. Here are just some few verses from 1 Corithians 7, The Messsage.

1 Corinthians 7: 2-6 , The Message 

Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them.

1 Corinthians 7: 8-9, The Message

I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can’t manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married.The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single.

Sexual morality

We all know and have heard about sexual immorality, right? We have been warned about this and told the dangers of it and that we need to avoid it, but do you know anything about sexual morality? Do you know anything about how to handle yourself as a sexual being, with sexual desires and how you can bring them to subjection? We hardly talk about this. The Lord told me that the main reason why people struggle with sexual immorality is that they have never learned anything about sexual morality. We hardly talk about the morality of sex or even train our young ones on it. Yet this is so important as our physicality as human beings also entail our sexuality as humans.

When I was in High School, I struggled with this. I didn’t know what it means to be a sexual being and the changes that happen to a young boy that constitute to them as being human beings, with a sexual, physical and spiritual life. What was natural for any human being, I thought of it as immoral, and thus this was a gateway for the devil to play with my mind and make me feel of myself as a sinner when I was not, I merely was transitioning from boyhood to manhood.

Through the years, learning that I am also a sexual being has been among one of the critical milestones to allowing me to focus on all that God has done for me and get to approach Him with a lot of confidence and love, Jesus Christ being the cornerstone in my life. I have shared a lengthy video about this, and I am sure you will find this very insightful as we learned sexual morality. Learning how sexual morality works has helped me to be focused on all that the Lord has done and set for everyone to enjoy. I am confident you will be blessed by this video and Christ indeed bless you.

here is the link:

In case you have a comment or something you may love to share to the world about your journey and struggle to victory over the issue or something else, do feel free to let us know on the comments section below.



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Kedenge Arnold

Arnold Kedenge is called of God in Jesus Christ to manifest His Heart for all His creation to see and be changed to His form, in Jesus Name. Arnold is a published author and content creator living in Nairobi Kenya where he works as a publisher.

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